#RealBrides: A Summer Garden Wedding
Our next #RealBride tells us all about how she achieved her dream of a casual and fun summer garden wedding. I love how Maitha knew what she wanted, and what she didn’t, and made sure she stuck to her vision throughout the planning process. I think you’ll agree that keeping things simple really did seem to be key for her, and a good lesson for other brides-to-be who are struggling with wedding overwhelm!
Tell me a little bit about your wedding to set the scene.
We knew we wanted a summer wedding and something very low key, not too formal and not too many rules! In a nutshell we were picturing a summer garden party with a our family and a few of our closest friends. Plus lots of food, games and music of course! I wanted something very casual where everyone would feel comfortable together having fun and enjoying the day.
On a scale of 1 to 10, how stressed out were you during the lead-up to your wedding?
I would say I enjoyed the process of planning the wedding. At the start I was probably a 1-2 as I was mostly excited, that quickly jumped up to a 9 when I realised that none of the beautiful venues we had looked at were open to the style of wedding we had in mind. At that point we really had a re-think and once we found a venue through a friend’s family I think I was probably back to a 2!
The biggest stress we had was probably the budget as we really wanted to keep costs down and not end up paying for (in our opinions) frivolous details that we wouldn’t care about in years to come. I think if anything we were lucky we got married before Instagram took off so there were no added social media pressures!
Did you have any strategies for looking after your wellbeing and mindset whilst planning your wedding?
I think it really is down to each person and their characters, just like wellbeing and a healthy mindset in day to day life – coping mechanisms really vary depending on what works for each person. For me personally, it’s about being organised and having that feeling of being as much in control of the situation as possible. So I had a planner, I made lists, I cut out pictures from magazines for inspiration (also quite therapeutic!) and I had a timeline and budget tracker.
I also made sure that the planning didn’t take over my life by keeping every element as simple as I could. In that way you still have head space for other things.
Is there anything you regret spending your time and energy worrying about in the lead up to your wedding?
I know it’s the value of hindsight but I would say other peoples’ opinions. In the end it’s about the two of you exchanging vows and no-one else.
What advice would you give your engaged self?
Enjoy the process and never forget the only important factor – you are lucky enough to have found your best friend, soulmate and favourite human and you get to celebrate that with people who love you both. In the end nothing else matters, I truly believe that!
…I am totally with you on that Maitha!
Don’t you love Maitha’s approach and wise words? If you’d like to hear more from Maitha check out her brilliant lifestyle blog, Peony & Blue, which is written from her sunny home of Dubai.